on 13-11-2017 4:26 PM - last edited on 13-11-2017 4:50 PM by leighmavon
I'm Corinne Sweet, a writer, broadcaster, therapist and lecturer who has joined with Avon to support their campaign with Liverpool Ladies Football Club, I Can Be.
My mantra has been to act ‘as if’ I can be the person I want to be. When I wanted to write my first book, I behaved ‘as if’ I could; when I first went on TV and radio, I walked into the studio ‘as if’ I did it every day. Learning ‘self-belief’ is like taking on a good habit: each time I achieved a small goal, I patted myself on the back. And set the next goal.
I have achieved far more than I was expected to by both my family and school. I decided on the things I wanted to do, like writing books and screenplays, going on radio and TV, training as a therapist, having a child after having a serious road accident, or even divorcing my husband and buying my own house, and then worked out how to achieve them. I did my research, got support, and then had a go, step by step.
Confidence comes from making mistakes, and picking myself up again, and continuing to try to achieve my goals, having learned something. I still have to tell myself ‘I can be’ x or y, even now. It is about believing I am entitled to be where I am, that I have a right to have a go, to take my place, that I deserve success, and that I am good enough.
My 'top tips' for achieving you ambitions are:
* Set goals: short, medium and long term - it helps you focus;
* Ask for help - successful people have a ‘team’ around them of encouragers and supporters;
* Focus on yourself - stop comparing yourself to others, it works against achieving for yourself;
* Develop a positive mindset: negative thoughts pull you down, de-energise you;
* Congratulate yourself on your successes and build on them;
* Be good to yourself physically - take in good nutrition, get sleep, cut down on harmful things - your body is your temple;
* Learn to relax and unwind - you can’t be ‘on’ the whole time. Make sure you get time to chill;
* Practice simple mindfulness and meditation techniques - make this part of your daily routine;
* Visualise success: this is half the battle - see yourself as achieving, being successful;
* Build your confidence - with a coach, a counsellor, friends, family, a partner - confidence shows in performance;
* Widen your horizons - make sure you take some time out to enjoy life with family and friends: being too narrow doesn’t always lead to success;
Next week I'll be talking about how you can rise above the stereotypes- see you then!
16-11-2017 10:47 AM
A breath of fresh air! Thank you Corinne.
Sometimes all you...I need is a 'pep' talk - it's so easy to fall into the 'doubt' trap. But i love this 'fake it 'till you make it' mentality. I wish i could remember to do it more!!
Apparently it takes 21 days to form a habit...good or bad!
21-11-2017 9:12 AM
Thank you @corinnesweet I think I am my own worse critic, remembering also the times when people, some family members who have put me down. I am going to try and do the things that you suggest, adapting them into my lifestyle. x